My marriage is a mess....?

Oh dear me, my heart goes out to you. You know what to do, he is not your husband, not in the sense of the word, I would say he is angry because you are not there to jump whenever he says jump, so he is deliberatly going out of his way to make your life unhappy. Dont waste your life on this looser dear, start your action for divorce, and thank goodness there are no children involved, it will make the divorce so much easier and quicker. Once you have done this you will wonder why you waited so long before doing this before, but you must do it, you cant take the chance of him going really crazy one day and causing you some damage. Please start the proceeds for divorce asap, he has no respect for you, and his behaviour shows he certainly does not love you, so finish this asap so you may get on with a normal healthy life, and maybe in the future you will find someone that loves you as you should be loved. Good luck dear.